Things are going much better now on the parenting homefront and I am so grateful!
When we were still in the midst of stress last week, I had the idea to get Jeff away from it all. I think we mothers carry the weight of the emotional stress involved when there is conflict with our kids. However, I cannot imagine the tremendous amount of burden fathers carry when they are ultimately responsible for spiritual, financial, and relationship factors of family life. No wonder God made men with the ability to compartmentalize!
I could see Jeff was carrying the burden greatly last week. So, I called one of my friends at church, Laurie, and asked her if she would be willing to watch the kids after school for a little while. She was so sweet to say yes.
I made Jeff’s favorite dinner, lit candles all over the house and had sparkling cider poured into our fancy glasses. I met him at the front door formally dressed with glasses in hand. He greeted me at the door with a huge bouquet of flowers – so sweet! I still remember him greeting me at my apartment door with a yellow rose in his hand on our first date…sweet memories (sorry if that is too mushy for anyone out there reading).
We made the agreement we wouldn’t talk about the kids at all (which was really hard) and had such a great date night. It was nice to have a few hours to just be together and enjoy the beautiful gift of love and friendship God has given us in each other.
When the kids got home, they loved blowing out all the candles in the house…Which brings me to a sidenote… Kids love to see parents doing special things together. Apart from just knowing their parents are in love and stable, it also gives them an example of what they should expect in a spouse… We pray our example will be part of what teaches them to wait for the right person to marry and not to settle for something less.
The next night, Little Brother asked, “Can we have a special dinner too?”
“Of course we can!”
We lit all the candles, turned the lights down low and had such a cute family dinner together. The kids felt so special and it was logged into my Mommy brain that we should probably do this once a month and make it a tradition for the kids.
Oh the wonder of simple things… Simple things can be the frosting on the cake… They make life sweeter.