Today is Better. Thursday, March 25, 2010

Things are going well over here.  I am so glad the boys are responding to their incentives…….Ok, so let’s be real…  I had to change a few things up.  We now have 5 foam shapes posted on the kitchen door and however many are left each day equals the pieces of candy they can have for a treat.  We don’t often eat candy here, so this is a pretty big deal.

This has brought improvement.  We definitely learned yesterday that losing a toy for the day meant nothing to them at all nor did it help provide incentive.  I guess that is part of parenting.  You discard what doesn’t work and then forge ahead to what does.

However, the reward-for-good-behavior concept has really helped clean up their speech.  When they get their shape taken away, it is usually due to gun sounds and beating up sounds and similar mild, violent natured speech.  We are constantly watching these things.  We have learned that if we let a little go (in regards to guns and fighting), then it will get excessive.

However, our hearts are so happy to have them in our home.  I hope that when these blogs are read, it is clear how much we love them and just want to help the boys along in their journey…  We really want to plant positive behaviors in their lives.  We are going to have these types of things pop up in our foster care journey, but our love remains the same for them.

Jeff and I were praying together the other night.  Jeff prayed, “Lord, we are feeling the challenge of parenting.  But we are up for the challenge with Your help.  We say yes to these children and to the will you have for our lives and their lives.  We know You are using these children to purify our hearts and show us areas in our lives where we lack.  Please help us to listen and hear what You are saying to us so we can be who we need to be for You.”

I couldn’t have said it better!

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One Response to Today is Better. Thursday, March 25, 2010

  1. Dana,

    I think you are on the right track with your reward program. You may have to switch it up from time to time but keep up the insentives. Come better weather you might want to use an outing like the park or a water park (be creative), whatever works. Each child is different but just keep reinforceing the good behavior. It will take time and much love, patients and prayer (this bad behavior didn’t come about over night). You and Jeff have a real ministry with the children that are place with you. There will be many ups and downs but the rewards are great!!! That’s what parenting is abou,t weather you are natural parents or forster. I know that you love these children as much as you would your own. I’ll be praying for you and the children.

    Love in Christ,

    Kathy
    Thursday, March 25, 2010 – 07:15 PM

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