I am calling on you seasoned parents (and/or geniuses) for your creative ideas!
It has been officially 9 days since Little Boy has come to live with us. In that time, we have already come to love him!
However, there is a challenge presented to us in the sense that we have two boys with similar backgrounds.
There is a different energy they can produce when they come together. Don’t get me wrong – they get along just like brothers do. They hug, they run, they love, and they fight (in the light sense of the word).
However, they CONSTANTLY talk about “poop”, “pee”, and running around shooting guns, fake beating people up, and the list goes on!!!
I know a lot of people say “boys will be boys”, but this is different. This is not an “occasional” use of words and guns. This is a constant onslaught. This is a serious issue we are trying to resolve. It effects our home and even the social places we go – whether to church or appointments.
We know this is due to their background. Things they have seen and also a lack of good foundation laying.
We have tried several ways to stop these behaviors, but so far have not found success. We keep them busy with productive activities, we have used time out, and have verbally put a stop to it.
Today, we started something new to give them incentive to clean up their act. We have two pieces of candy taped to our kitchen door frame. Any time they use off color words or violence, the candy will be taken away. If both pieces of candy are taken away, then we resort to their favorite toys. However, if they can control their words and actions, they will get a treat at the end of the day. So far, it is 10:00 and no candy has been taken away. This is a HUGE accomplishment.
All this said, my question is: DO YOU HAVE ANY CREATIVE IDEAS?
I am aware this approach will only last for so long – and I will need a fresh idea to quickly replace it.